GUIDE FOR BRIDES
Guidance on how to plan the perfect
For a lot of ladies their wedding day is one of the most
important in their life although this can be for varying reasons.
For some it is just getting the final commitment from their partner
whilst for others it is the pomp and ceremony of the day itself.
The proposal is just the start of things - but where do
you go from there?
Here are some of the questions you may be asking yourself
Ok, he has
proposed. Now what?!
Where do I
start getting ideas?
- What are your favourite
- Do you prefer summer or
- What are your favourite colours?
- Do you and your hubby-to-be have
a special song?
- Do you share the same choice in
style- country romantic, modern & urban, hippy chic?
- You can use any of these things
to spark inspiration for your big day!
As a child I dreamt of the
stereotypical white wedding but am a little concerned as to how
to add colour.
My mother thinks that having
everything white will look too bland.
- An all white wedding can be
- If you are including young Page
Boys and/or Bridesmaids, be aware of the obsession small
children tend to have with dirt; grass and mud and of course
food when eating!
- If holding the wedding in the
summer, be careful off brilliant whites and hints of blue as
this can appear cold.
- Don't be afraid to add a splash
of colour. Colour trends will vary according to seasons. A
majority of colour choices are dictated by the choice in
flowers available at that time.
- For spring weddings, fresh
colours such as pinks and greens are most commonly used.
- The summer offers a plethora of
radiant blossoms, yellow being a popular choice, but really
with hundreds of different flowers in bloom, you can pretty
much any colour!
- Autumnal weddings are the
perfect excuse to use the deep red/brown tones, found in the
leaves on the trees. The burnt orange colour associated to
pumpkins and fireworks; Halloween and Bonfire Night; add to
glow of the season.
- The ideal winter wedding would
see snow gently falling, however if you are not so lucky to
get the weather you desire on the day, use wintery items such
as fake fur and pretend icicles. A shock of reds looks good to
warm white winter weddings.
- To emphasise the white in your
outfits, use colour sparingly - Bridesmaids dresses and
waistcoats for the gents, add colour with your earrings and
bouquet. Colour the venue by using the majority of white -
with balloons, table linens and other decorations, with a few
coloured hints - such as napkins and floral displays.
I’ve had the lovely diamond ring, and got very excited, now I can
believe how much there is to do in preparation.
There is no way we can
afford a Co-ordinator, and I’m trying to keep our mothers out of it
for fear of them taking over…..
How do I get my fiancé to help me? He
seems to think he has bought the ring and there his duties end!
- Getting your fiancé to help
can be easier than you think. Assign him tasks that he would
have a natural interest in – such as organising the
transport, music or the photographer. If you are slightly
uncertain of his choices, draw up a short list and ask him
to call for quotes, thus taking the laborious tasks from
you, but not letting him make any decisions!
- Ask him directly for his
help, let him know you need him, and write down all that
needs to be done so he knows how much you have to do.
- Unless he is a true “New
Man”, some areas will be no-go, such as choosing favours,
decorations or Bridesmaids dresses, this is when you call in
your friends, or the mothers, for vital assistance!
- Do ensure, for both your
sakes, that you do set aside time for yourselves. Sometimes,
even your girlfriends can get overwhelmed by too much
wedding!! Do something spontaneous, go see a film, have a
picnic in the park. Don’t loose track of why you are getting
married to each other in the first place!
- You should, however, find
that once you break up the tasks into smaller easily
achieved tasks that it won't seem so daunting. Set a
timetable to see what really needs doing, and when,
to see how much of an issue it will be.
- Your boss may be prepared to
give you some additional unpaid leave, rather than see you
struggle to fit in everything at the weekends.
- Asking your Mum to help with
small favours will please her and involve her, just ensure
she knows that it is your wedding and not hers. Also
approach trusted friends to help you - planning your wedding
should be an enjoyable time, not a period of suffering!
How do I start choosing my dream dress?
- This is your chance to receive the full “Trinny and Susannah” treatment.
Most of us don’t regularly wear full length ivory dresses, so you can’t
be expected to know what might suit you.
- Take plenty of advice from the professionals and try on a range of styles.
Your dress designer, or boutique assistant, will be able to advise you on
the best type of gown to suit your body shape, your personality and the
style of the wedding.
- Although most brides tend to take along a friend that
they trust to be totally honest about how a dress looks (particularly from
that crucial back view), the assistant should, if asked, be prepared to give
a really honest opinion even if it might cause offence!
- Look through magazines for inspiration, and take along any drawings or
photographs to enable you to show the assistant what you are looking for.
She should be able to find something similar and aid you in your quest for
your dream dress.
- Always make an appointment if you are wanting to try on gowns. The boutique
assistants will want to give you their full attention, to help you in and
out of dresses and offer advice on the fit, which they are unable to do in a
busy changing room. Saturdays are usually the busiest days, and you may find
that you need to make your appointment well in advance.
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