GUIDE FOR BRIDES
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How do I get my fiancÃÂÃÂ© to help me? He seems to think he has bought the ring and there his duties end!
- Getting your fiancÃÂÃÂ© to help can be easier than you think. Assign him tasks that he would have a natural interest in Ã¢ÂÂ such as organising the transport, music or the photographer. If you are slightly uncertain of his choices, draw up a short list and ask him to call for quotes, thus taking the laborious tasks from you, but not letting him make any decisions!
- Ask him directly for his help, let him know you need him, and write down all that needs to be done so he knows how much you have to do.
- Unless he is a true Ã¢ÂÂNew ManÃ¢ÂÂ, some areas will be no-go, such as choosing favours, decorations or Bridesmaids dresses, this is when you call in your friends, or the mothers, for vital assistance!
- Do ensure, for both your sakes, that you do set aside time for yourselves. Sometimes, even your girlfriends can get overwhelmed by too much wedding!! Do something spontaneous, go see a film, have a picnic in the park. DonÃ¢ÂÂt loose track of why you are getting married to each other in the first place!
- You should, however, find that once you break up the tasks into smaller easily achieved tasks that it won’t seem so daunting. Set a timetable to see what really needs doing, and when, to see how much of an issue it will be.
- Your boss may be prepared to give you some additional unpaid leave, rather than see you struggle to fit in everything at the weekends.
- Asking your Mum to help with small favours will please her and involve her, just ensure she knows that it is your wedding and not hers. Also approach trusted friends to help you – planning your wedding should be an enjoyable time, not a period of suffering!
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